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Summer is Over & School is On!!!

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Summer is Over & School is On!Woohoo!!! School is back in session. This is the best day of the year for stay-at-home parents everywhere. Christmas, New Year, or even Halloween can’t compete with the first day of school for us. I love RB40Jr dearly and we had an awesome summer together, but I’m ecstatic to have some personal time back. As you may know, I made a goal to reclaim the summer break this year. I cut back on everything to spend the summer with our son and enjoy the nice weather. How did it work out? Well, it was a mixed bag. Let me tell you about all the good stuff first.

Spending time with Junior

My main goal this summer was to spend more time with our son. That goal worked out very well. In previous summers, we sent him to summer camp every other week. It gave me much need time to blog and run errands. However, this year we decided to skip the summer camp arrangement. This means we spent most of the summer together. This worked out pretty well because we had a good mix of activities and relaxing time. Here is what we did in June and July. I’ll write more about August a bit later.

Travel – We visited Iceland for 2 weeks in June. In July, we took a 2 week road trip to visit friends and family in California. This is what summer is all about. It’s the time to travel for families with school age kids. Actually, I prefer to travel in the shoulder seasons, but we just have to roll with it for now. Anyway, it was great to get out of town for a while. We had a great time on our trips this year.

Iceland trip

Staycation – We live in Portland, OR and I love the summer here. The Pacific Northwest weather is usually perfect in the summer (more about this later). It’s not too hot and there are a ton of things to do locally. You really can’t beat it. RB40Jr had a great time hanging out with friends, going to the parks, swimming, reading, and visiting various attractions around town.

staycationScreen time – You know kids. If you give them a choice, they’ll just stay home and play games and watch cartoon all day. I tried to balance this with outdoor activities, but he still had a lot of screen time this summer. I’m pretty happy school is back in session. He’ll be too busy to spend much time playing games now.

All in all, we had a great time together this summer. I think we can safely cut out summer camp from now on. We’ll sign him up for a really interesting one occasionally, but we don’t have to send him to the child care camp anymore.

Ramping down work

Another reason why I wanted to bring back summer break is because I want to try working less. During the school year, I spend approximately 20-30 hours per week on this blog. This is good for now, but I’d like to cut back to about half that in the distant future. You can read more detail about my plan to ramp down work in Bring Back Summer Breaks. This summer was a trial run to see if cutting back was actually feasible. I reduced my work load by 50% by cutting back to one post per week instead of 2.

Pros of working less

  • Relaxation. I cut back to posting once per week this summer and it helped me relax more. I didn’t have to worry about the blog when we were out of town. In previous years, I usually stuck to 2 posts per week even when we were traveling. This meant I usually worked at night when we were in Costa Rica, Mexico, Thailand, and various other destinations. This summer was great because I was able to have some truly relaxing .
  • Minimal impact to blog traffic. Surprisingly, cutting down to 1 post per week had minimal impact on the blog traffic. There are fewer visitors due to the summer slowdown since everyone is on vacation. However, traffic is about the same as last summer. This is a pleasant surprise for me. I thought traffic would decrease from going to just 1 post per week. I don’t know. Google keeps changing their search algorithm so it’s tough to know what’s really impact blog traffic.

Cons of working less

  • Writing became more difficult. Blogging less often made it more difficult for me to write since I procrastinate a lot more when the deadline is lax. I’d spend the weekday with RB40Jr and put off writing until the weekend. Normally, I have a schedule and I work on my blog a little bit every day. You can read more on how I write a blog post here. Posting once per week made it much more difficult to get into the flow.

The work less experiment turned out okay. I was able to relax more, but writing became more difficult. It’s not easy to find a balance in life. Anyway, school has started and I’m looking forward to writing 2 posts per week again. Next year, I’ll have to figure out a better way to work less.

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Exercise

I took the summer off from going to the gym. I spent more time outdoors with RB40Jr, though.

steps

My steps are up for the summer, so that’s good. I’m ready to go back to the gym. During the school year, I go to gym after I drop RB40Jr off every day. It’ll be nice to get back into the routine.

Unfortunate August

Summer was just about perfect in June and July. It was just the summer break I wanted. However, it didn’t last. August arrived with an adversity.

My mom

My mom lives with us for about 9 months every year. She usually stays with my brothers in California in the winter. However, we went to Iceland this summer so we sent her to California in June. At the end of July, we took a road trip to CA and picked her up to come back to Portland with us. The road trip was tough for her. We drove for 3 days and she was getting more confused as the trip went on. She is 70 years old and she is at the beginning stages of dementia. By the time we got home, her symptoms had worsened considerably. She was frequently confused, paranoid, and talked a lot of nonsense.

We took her to see her doctor and she was prescribed a new medication to help with the confusion. However, the new meds made everything worse. She began to have vivid hallucinations and became even more paranoid and confused. We stopped the new meds, but the symptoms persisted. Eventually, she was diagnosed with delirium and we’re still dealing with it. I had to supervise her very closely so we mostly stuck close to home in August.

It’s been over a month now and my mom is improving a bit. She has fewer hallucinations and sleeps better now. Hopefully, she’ll be back to her baseline soon. It’s tough. She’s getting older and her health is slowly worsening every year. From what I understand, changing the environment is bad for dementia patients. It takes a long time for them to adapt to a new environment and it’s very stressful. From now on, she’ll probably have to live in Portland full time. The road trip probably made it worse too. We didn’t drink enough water and she might have been a little dehydrated.

Anyway, this is the reason why I think it’s a terrible idea to retire at 65. My family medical history is not great. Most of my older relatives have some kind of serious health issue. I don’t want to retire at 65 and then be able to travel for only a few years. Early retirement is a much better fit for me. I can enjoy life now in my 40s and stick closer to home in my 70s. Of course, I’ll try to stay healthy, but I’m not too optimistic with my family history.

Western Fires

Lastly, this fire season is insane. There are so many fires and so much smoke that most of August wasn’t enjoyable. The air quality was frequently bad and we stayed inside much more often than usual. This really bites because summer is the best time to be home in the Pacific Northwest. That’s the time of the year where we can really unwind and enjoy the outdoors. Now, our summer will be even shorter. It’ll start raining pretty soon and we’ll have gray and wet skies until next June. If this is the “new normal”, I’m not sure if I can handle living in the PNW.

You can check out the current fire and smoke map at NOAA’s site.

Western Fires

School is back in session!

All in all, I’m glad school is back in session. RB40Jr is starting 2nd grade and I hope he has a good experience this year. He always had a hard time adjusting to being back in school. The first few weeks will probably be rough for everyone. I’m sure he’ll adapt to the new teacher and friends soon, though. First grade was pretty good so I’m optimistic.

Okay, so how was your summer? Did you get a chance to relax a bit?

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  • Financial Samurai August 27, 2018, 12:36 am

    That’s awesome you are so pumped about school being back in session haha.
    I’m waiting for the tantrums of 2-4 year olds to kick in.
    Hope your mom gets back to her baseline too.
    Great traffic stayed constant.
    Now that school is back in session for most kids, I’m looking forward to taking a break. I tend to work hard in the summer b/c the sites and museums and destination spots are busy, and vacation during the fall.

    Sam

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:32 am

      I love it. I finally have a little time for myself.
      On the other hand, RB40Jr is not thrilled, at all. We’ll see how it goes when he gets back later today.
      Taking it easy was good for a few weeks, but I’m really glad to get back into the routine. I was getting lazy.

  • Mr. Tako August 27, 2018, 1:11 am

    Sorry to hear about the difficulties with your mom Joe. That’s tough one to deal with, no doubt.

    Glad you had a good summer with your son though. I got a chance to take my boys camping this summer and we had a really good time. I’m going to miss my oldest when he starts school this fall. We’ve spent so much time together it’s going to be a big change for both of us.

    As a fellow Pacific Northwesterner, I hear you about the air quality too. My lungs don’t like the smoke in the air and the last couple of weeks haven’t been fun at all. I hope “smoke season” in August isn’t the new normal.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:34 am

      Delirium is very hard to deal with. I didn’t know it’d be this difficult to handle as a caretaker. She’s getting better slowly so I’m really happy about that.
      I think your son will enjoy kindergarten. Kids need to spend more time with kids their own age.
      I hope the smoke season isn’t the new normal either. It’s horrible. More indoor time is not good in the PNW.

  • Ernie Zelinski August 27, 2018, 1:40 am

    You ask, “so how was your summer? Did you get a chance to relax a bit?”

    Of course, I always get a chance to relax, perhaps too much!

    On the other hand, I still need a purpose, something to work on that will give me some satisfaction in the end. Given that my income will likely fall to about $230,000 this year, I decided to see if I could stop it from falling next year too.

    So, I am working on getting a book published called “The Joy of Being Retired: 365 Reasons Why Retirement Rocks (and Work Sucks!).” This is actually a book that I put together about 10 years ago and have sat on all this time. It has not only 365 reasons but also 50 bonus reasons why retirement rocks – and work sucks. I kinda didn’t know what to do with this book. But recently I realized that opportunity was staring me in the face for the last three years and I didn’t see it. Another author had a similar book (mine is much better) published on Amazon three years ago and it has sold over 40,ooo copies mainly because it was paired with my “How to Retire Happy, Wild, and Free.” I will now see if I can do the same. Even if I can attain half the success that this other author had with her book, I will earn around $140,000 in extra royalties over the next 3 years. There is still quite a bit of work to do with “The Joy of Being Retired” because I am now placing a cartoon image with each of my 365 (plus 50 bonus) reasons why retirement rocks and work sucks. Not to worry, though. I am doing it at my leisure.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:36 am

      Good luck with your new book. That’s my kind of book. It sounds great.
      That’s a good idea to pair the new book with How to Retire Happy, Wild, and Free. Do you have to contact Amazon? Good luck!

  • Pennypincher August 27, 2018, 2:06 am

    Super cute pics of RB40jr.
    Parents are so relieved when the whole childcare/babysitter scenario is over and done with. It seems like the wallet is always open for that. Thank God it’s temporary.
    Thank you for sharing your difficulties w/us about your mom. I’m sure it’s helpful to all. Very sorry to hear this as you must have to take things day by day. No words to describe it all.
    I too have a bucket list each year of stuff to do/see before summer is over too quickly.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:39 am

      Summer camps are crazy expensive too. The “good” camps cost around $200-300 per week. Next year, we might send Jr to one. At least he doesn’t have to go to childcare anymore. Right, we have to take things day by day.

  • Accidental FIRE August 27, 2018, 2:51 am

    Sorry about your Mom Joe but glad to hear she’s on the mend

  • Half Life Theory August 27, 2018, 3:37 am

    Sorry to hear about your mom Joe! I hope things continue to get better in the future. And i completely agree with you, 65 is just too late for most people. Even if there is no known history of medical conditions…. just get out as early as you can, and spend that precious tie with family instead.

    And yeah looks like you guys had an amazing summer. Ramping down work isn’t a bad idea though…. either way you have built a life that gives you a plethora of options. Cheers Joe!

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:47 am

      Thanks. We had a great summer, but I’m really glad school is back in session. I don’t know about ramping down too much. It made me a bit too lazy and I couldn’t get much done. 🙂

  • Xrayvsn August 27, 2018, 3:56 am

    Yeah the start of school for my daughter was a nice relief for me. It was getting to the point where she was complaining of getting bored and I was having a tough time trying to find ways to keep her entertained. Thank God for homework.

    As part of the custody agreement for my daughter, she actually spent 4 weeks in England, so I actually used that time to catch up on blog writing and build up a reserve of posts as it is much harder to write when she is here keeping me busy.

    Best of luck with your mother, you are right that changes can be very challenging to someone with dementia. And it definitely highlights the rationale for retiring as early as you can so you can enjoy life while you can.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:49 am

      Our son was starting to complain too especially because we were stuck at home more often in August. We’ll see how it goes with homework this year. Hopefully, they’ll assign 30 minutes of homework or something like that. Otherwise, he’ll have too much free time to fool around.
      Thanks. I hope the dementia medicine will be better when I’m 70.

  • Lazy Man and Money August 27, 2018, 4:11 am

    I’m sorry to hear about your mother. My mother is going through some more physical problems in the last month. It doesn’t seem that 70 is the new 60.

    I’m not looking forward to the first day of school as much as a holiday. I think it’s because we pay for full-time camp, so I’m not getting any time back. Since we pay for school it’s not even a financial benefit.

    The air quality is great on this other coast. There’s plenty of marine biology options (even volunteer stuff) in Rhode Island ;-).

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:50 am

      Exactly. 70 is still 70 for most people. It’s harder to travel and enjoy life the way they used to.
      I wonder why we have so many more fires in the west. I guess it’s more humid on the east coast?

  • Mrs. Groovy August 27, 2018, 4:22 am

    Great to hear that your pulling back on the blog didn’t affect traffic. You’ve got a solid base!

    I’m sorry to hear about your mom’s health worsening. Is she taking vitamin D? If not, perhaps you can ask her doctor if he/she thinks it may be beneficial?

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:52 am

      She is taking multivitamin. I’ll read up more on vitamin D. That’s probably not an issue in the summer. We get plenty of sunshine. Winter is a different story in the PNW. Everyone has vitamin D deficiency by April.

  • Freedom 40 Plan August 27, 2018, 6:17 am

    Sorry to hear about your Mom, but I’m sure it would be an even harder situation if you didn’t have the time flexibility that you do. It’s great that you got to spend so much time with the little guy this summer. Mine isn’t quite one yet, but in a few years I’m looking forward to some fun summertime shenanigans.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:53 am

      Right. I’m really glad my schedule is flexible enough to help her. My brothers work full time and they can’t help that much.
      If I was still working full time, I’d have to take some time off to deal with this. At the peak of it, she can’t be left alone. She’s much better now, though.

  • Adam August 27, 2018, 6:18 am

    I’m bummed to hear about your mom’s troubles. My dad seems almost everything at 70 that he was at 50, but watching my mom lose her battle with cancer a few years ago rocked my world. It’s really rough watching the strongest people in your life lose that vitality. Here’s hoping she continues to improve!

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:54 am

      It’s hard to see your parent’s health deteriorate. My mom used to be much more independent. Now, she is dependent on me for almost everything. It’s like having another kid…

  • Jim @ Route To Retire August 27, 2018, 6:20 am

    So sorry to hear about your mom getting worse – that’s got to be hard for everyone.

    My wife and I are actually sad that school is starting for our daughter. It’s a sign that summer’s wrapping up (though it seems like the kids start earlier each year!).

    We decided to move up our moving date a few weeks ago, so things have been a little stressful for August as we’ve been fixing and cleaning up the house. Definitely “fun” leaving the house on a moment’s notice every time an agent wants to do a showing. On this front, I’ll be glad to wrap up the summer if it means this fun will be done! 😉

    — Jim

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:56 am

      Good luck with the house. That’s stressful too. I think we’ll move out first then put it on the market. We’ll see how it goes.
      Interesting that you feel sad about school starting. Someone else said at school today. I don’t understand it. 🙂

  • Angela @ Tread Lightly Retire Early August 27, 2018, 6:27 am

    Sorry to hear the update on your mom. Seventy seems so young to me 🙁

    I’m not surprised we’re both writing about the wildfires right now – this is not normal, and it sucks. Apparently we should expect bad air quality off and on until the rains start in earnest. Fingers crossed we can go on our Labor Day camping trip as planned.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:57 am

      I agree. Seventy should still be good, but everyone is different. Hopefully, I’ll be more healthy when I’m that age.
      Have fun camping!

  • FullTimeFinance August 27, 2018, 6:45 am

    One more week here. I usually watch our boys behavior deteriorate towards the very end of the summmer so glad it’s time to go back. That’s been our focus this year. Busy summer here: Iceland, Maine, a day trip to the beach, a couple summer camps. Always sad to see it go.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 10:58 am

      It sounds like you had a great summer too. That’s awesome.
      We were planning to go to Boise and enjoy some activities along the way. That trip was canceled due to my mom’s health. It’s okay, we’ve been busy this summer so a little time at home was good for the most part.

  • Isaac, Live Fi and Free August 27, 2018, 7:49 am

    Sorry to hear about your mom Joe. It was hard enough for me when my grandfather was having health issues, I cannot even begin to imagine how much harder it would be for a parent.

    It seems like everyday you’ll hear about people having major health issues before they even reach retirement. One of our good family friends just had a stroke last week. She is in her mid 50’s and in very good physical shape, working out regularly. She works as a photographer for a living. So not only can she not work at the moment, but she is not retired and needs the income to live. Its a terrible situation financially. This is my number one driver for pursuing financial independence.

    School is a fun time of year. I live in a neighborhood of young families with most of the kids being elementary and middle school age. The bus stop is right in my front yard and my dogs love it when they get to see all the kids every morning.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 11:00 am

      Thanks for your comment. You never know how healthy you’ll be when you’re older. It’s best to try to enjoy life while you’re still young. Some people are perfectly healthy in their 80s, but I think they are the exception.

  • Ms ZiYou August 27, 2018, 8:04 am

    So sorry to hear about your mum Joe – and so glad you’ve got the time and space to look after her. Fingers crossed she gets settled in and seem more like herself soon.

    And JuniorRB40 looks very cure in the underwater pic. It sounds like you’ve had an epic summer together and are ready to dispatch him back to school filled with great stories to tell his friends.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 11:01 am

      Thanks for your comment. She’s almost back to her old self now. I just hope the hallucinations go away completely at some point. Those are not good.

  • David Michael August 27, 2018, 8:34 am

    Nothing like summers in the PNW. We weren’t affected too much by smoke in Eugene this summer. The great thing about being retired is that with September comes great fishing and camping in the mountains and coast of Oregon. The tourists are heading south! Over two years I have been converting a new Promaster van to a camper at a leisurely pace. It’s a beauty so my wife and I camp as much as possible during the summer and fall. Headed to the islands of British Columbia for kayaking and biking next week before football season for the month of September.

    Sorry to hear about your mom. I have some friends who are in the early stages of dementia. Not fun. My wife and I are fortunate in that we have no physical or mental limitiations in our 80’s. I have been working seasonally for the past ten years and that may help as one has to mentally and physically adapt to new demands. We all age differently and it helps to have good genes as my aunt from Portland, Maine, turns 100 in November.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 11:05 am

      Really? I thought Eugene would see similar smoke like Portland. I guess most of that came down from WA and Canada so you didn’t have to deal with as much smoke. There were a bunch of fires when we went to California too. There were fires around Shasta, Klamath Falls, and Redding while we were in CA. Pretty crazy.
      I think you’re really lucky with your genes. You’re active and still enjoy life in your 80’s. Seventy seems a bit early to me, but I guess that’s life. One of my tenants was in his 50s when he got Alzheimer’s. That’s rough.

  • Dr. McFrugal August 27, 2018, 8:57 am

    I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. Dementia and cognitive decline is the worst kind of chronic disease. It’s highly frustrating for both the patient and the family.

    I don’t want to be too preachy, but I would encourage you to look into a whole food plant based (or at least mostly plant centric) diet. Chronic disease isn’t all genetic. A lot of it is the environment and the food that we eat. Check out Michael Greger’s book “How Not to Die” and keep an open mind.

    A plant based diet is easy to do if you eat mostly Thai food. And if you have any questions, feel free to ask me 🙂

  • Helen August 27, 2018, 10:39 am

    Hi, Joe, yeah, the first couple of weeks back to school must be tough for the kids. That’s good you enjoyed and relaxed during the summer. Sorry to hear about your mom’s latest condition. It’s hard for her and you folks. Take care.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 1:17 pm

      RB40Jr usually has a hard time adjusting to a new environment. His adrenaline is pumping and he acts a bit crazy. After a couple of weeks, he usually settles down and behaves better. We’ll see how it goes this year. Thanks.

  • mary w August 27, 2018, 10:40 am

    So sorry about your mom. I’m only a few years young and dementia is my biggest fear. Thankfully your early retirement means you can spend time with her.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 1:18 pm

      Thank you for your comment. I’m afraid of dementia too. It’s a big problem for many people.

  • Revanche @ A Gai Shan Life August 27, 2018, 10:45 am

    I’m sorry about your mom. It’s really tough to combat that decline with meds, they are really hit or miss. I know some folks have had good results in stabilizing for a short while when they found meds that worked for them but dementia hasn’t been something that turns around from what I learned when Mom had it. It’s rough.

    I’m glad you had a good two of three months this summer, though, that’s pretty good when you’re the sandwich generation!

    We had a little bit of fun this summer. No more than I could handle, I think 🙂 You’ve got me thinking pretty hard about how I want to structure our lives for future summers. I’ve got a little while to go before I need to be ready for it.

    • retirebyforty August 27, 2018, 1:06 pm

      From what I understand, the medication can slow it down a bit. Hopefully, there will be better medication when I’m 70. That’s too young to be so limited by dementia. Summer was great, but I need to figure out something better next year. It’ll probably be better to work a little bit every day. We probably can’t travel as much for a while.

  • Doc G August 27, 2018, 1:07 pm

    Hey Joe. Sorry to hear about your moms troubles. I take care of people in her condition and know it can be trying!

  • David @iretiredyoung August 27, 2018, 3:49 pm

    Your post had much that felt familiar to me. I love my kids (they’re older than RB40Jr) but I too like my freedom away from them. I also have difficulty blogging while travelling, and my mother had Alzheimer’s. I believe in trying to make the best of the hand that we’re dealt, and you are a great example of doing that. I do hope your mother’s condition gets back to a better state.

    • retirebyforty August 28, 2018, 8:47 am

      Thank you for the encouragement. I’ll try to make the best of what we have too. My mom is getting better and I hope the dementia doesn’t deteriorate too fast.

  • GYM August 27, 2018, 10:21 pm

    Sorry to hear that your mom’s condition got worse and flared up during the road trip back, and that the new medication made things worse. It can be a lot of work to take care of your mom full time especially if/when her dementia gets worse… so hopefully, you will get some breaks and you’ll have your brother come from California to take care of her in Portland (if that’s even possible).

    • retirebyforty August 28, 2018, 8:47 am

      My brother is here to help out for a bit. They’ll have to make time to come up more often now. I don’t think she can travel much anymore. The change in environment is too stressful.

  • Sarah Garden August 28, 2018, 5:53 am

    I remember the smoky summers around the Portland area while growing up. It didn’t happen every summer but I think my town got smoked out because of field burning to the south, not because of forest fires. Having a parent with dementia is tough. Sometimes they can get off their baseline because of a UTI. This is especially common for elderly women and if you notice an increase in delirium symptoms at times of the day where she is normally pretty sharp, that would be my first suspicion. It is amazing how fast people can bounce back after treatment with antibiotics starts.

    • retirebyforty August 28, 2018, 8:49 am

      Really? I didn’t know they burned fields in the old days. I rarely notice the smoke since I moved here in 1996. The last 2 years were much worse than in previous years. Yes, the doctor checked for UTI. They didn’t find anything, but we’ll probably check again soon. Thank you for your comment.

  • Lily | The Frugal Gene August 28, 2018, 9:22 am

    Sorry to hear about your mom, it must be so stressful. Hoping she gets back to baseline soon. I’m afraid I’ll be at that position someday x2 with my parents. Not something I wanna think about even as morbid as I am.

    I was only posting 2x a week and my traffic was not impacted at all. But it didn’t increase either. If I could get away with just 1x week blog post I would totally do it :p just make it high quality.

    • retirebyforty August 29, 2018, 8:14 pm

      She’s better now, but it’s taking a long time. It’s pretty stressful and it’ll only get worse as she ages. Getting old is no fun.

  • [email protected] August 28, 2018, 12:43 pm

    Sounds like a great summer. Back to school for junior so more time for you. I definitely dream about FIRE!! I asked my employer for a flex schedule (it makes sense for my job since I honestly don’t even have to be in the office)…and they rejected it. ARGH!! I wanted to be able to pick up the kids…now I have to figure out an alternative.
    Sorry to hear about your mom…those medications really do have some weird reactions so you really stay on top of it with the medical professionals and to seek a second opinion if necessary.

    • retirebyforty August 29, 2018, 8:12 pm

      Sorry to hear that. I guess you’ll have to put them in aftercare. That’s what most of the parents at our school are doing.

  • FIRECracker August 29, 2018, 5:50 am

    Sorry to hear about your Mom. That sounds so stressful. 🙁 I’ll probably be in your position someday. I’m an only child and my grandmother also had Alzheimer. That’s why I’m trying to do as much travelling as possible before I’m needed *knock on wood*. I guess the silver lining is that at least we’re FIRE’d so we have the time to be there for our parents.

    Glad that you’re happy about Rb40Jr going back to school. Just curious, it’s not Sept yet, so wouldn’t it not be time yet for him to go back to school? Or do mean he’s starting school next week?

    • retirebyforty August 29, 2018, 8:11 pm

      It was super stressful, but she is a bit better now. I don’t know what we’d done if I was still working full time. I’d probably had to take time off to take care of her. When she was delirious, she was super paranoid. She didn’t trust anyone and I don’t think a caretaker would work.
      Yes, school started this week. Many schools already started.

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