I just realized that I haven’t given an update on my stay at home dad situation in a while so here goes. In September, we tried to send RB40 Jr. to preschool, but it didn’t work out so well. Basically, he cried until he fell asleep every day. After 4 days, the preschool said they couldn’t deal with him. It’s not a daycare and they can’t have kids sleeping there. I was pretty disappointed because I felt like they didn’t try hard enough. I think if we kept trying, Jr. would have gotten used to the teachers and the environment. Oh well…
The real problem is that the kid is super attached to his dad. We need to work on this issue over the next year so we’ll be ready for preschool next September. He will be older, too, so I think we will have a lot less trouble next time.
One recommendation the preschool gave was to get a babysitter so he’ll be able to handle strangers better. He has never been left alone with strangers before, and going to school was a rough transition for him.
Earlier this year, my mom came to stay with us to help out and he was fine being alone with her after an adjustment period. I was able to go to the library or a coffee shop to blog for 2-3 hours per day and that was perfect. She went back to Thailand last month though so it’s been back to blogging at midnight. I can’t do serious writing when he’s around because he’ll constantly interrupt and wants me to pay attention to him.
So now we are looking for a babysitter to come by 2-3 hours in the afternoon for about 3 days/week. This would be ideal, but it seems most babysitters want to work in the evenings. We live near a university so maybe we can find a student who has some free time in her schedule.
Another option is to join a gym with a childcare facility. There is a 24 Hour Fitness nearby that fits the bill. Actually, I really need to join a gym and get back into shape. When I was working, I went to the gym at lunch almost every day. It gave me a chance to unwind and get away from the office for a bit. After I left my engineering career behind, I thought I’d be able to stay somewhat in shape by running around with the little guy, but that was delusional. I couldn’t stick with my bodyweight exercise program at all. At least my weight is stable, but I’m definitely getting more flabby.
A gym would cost around $30/month for membership and $5/day for childcare (2 hours max). That’s pretty darn cheap compare to a daycare. I think we can perhaps go 3 times per week once RB40 Jr. can handle being with other people.
Of course, another preschool or daycare would be a good option, too. Daycare probably would be too expensive though. Part time daycare here costs around $1,000/month and our budget is only $500/month tops.
Another problem with the preschool we tried was the fact that they are pretty structured. They have circle time at 9, art activity at 10, story at 10:30, strict table manner, etc., which Mrs. RB40 loved. But a less structured system will probably be a better fit for our unstructured kid. Actually, I just got a line on a preschool that might work better for RB40 Jr. This one is only 2.5 hours long and they just play which seems more appropriate for a 2 and a half-year-old. We’ll go check it out and see if it will work out for us.
Anyway, like I mentioned, it’s back to blogging at midnight. I used to do this before my mom came to help so I’m sure I can get back into the groove again. Being able to work a few hours in the afternoon was so great though.
Any tips on how to fix the attachment issue? If you’re a mom/dad blogger (or work from home), do you have extra help come in?
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