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My 3 Months As A Stay-At-Home Dad Blogger

by retirebyforty on August 8, 2011 · 60 comments

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As some of you know, I went back to work full time in July after taking off 3 months to be a stay-at-home dad/blogger. It was a great experience and I recommend every dad to do it if you can. I had a great time and now that I had a bit of time to reflect on it, I want to share my experience. I know there are many stay-at-home mom bloggers, but I don’t think there are many stay-at-home dads.

Here are my goals from the 3 months retirement preview post.

  • Compile a detailed cash flow spread sheet. Success! I blogged about April, May, and June cash flow and kept track of all our income and expenses. After 3 months, we actually came out ahead and it was eye opening to see how close I am to my retire by 40 goal. We decided to continue to live on one paycheck when I went back to work and bank my paycheck. This will help us get ready to live on one paycheck and keep our expenses down. I’ll also continue to blog about each month’s cash flow.
  • Work on acquiring a 4 plex. The bank accepted our offer on a short sale and now we are doing all the paper work. I will blog more about the 4 plex when the deal is done.
  • Improve the blog and work on blog income. We did very well with the blog over the 3 month sabbatical. Our traffic increased, we got a Google Page Rank of 4 (Yes!), MozRank of 5.24, and are approaching 50,000 in Alexa rank. The blog income also improved to around $500/month. I’m very happy with Retire By 40! I also have more good news which I will reveal later this week so come by on Friday. ;)
  • Figure out more ways to make money online. Explore the niche site opportunities. Unfortunately, I didn’t do a good job here. I had a couple of niche site ideas, but I didn’t have a chance to implement it. I am way too busy right now so I’ll probably just register the domain and will work on it when I have time.
  • R&R – catch up on my hobbies, strum some ukuleles, dust off the Xbox, go to the farmer market, and just chill out and enjoy Spring.  We did pretty well here. It was a wet spring, but we were able to get out once in a while. Once baby RB40 got to 3 months old, we were more comfortable taking him out and about. I took him to the library, the marina, and a few other places in town. It’s fun to see people react to our baby (“Oohhhhh, how cuuuute!”).

baby tongueThis one wasn’t on the original list, but many commenters told me to enjoy spending time with the little guy. I really had a great time taking care of our baby. He weighed only 6 lbs 4 oz when he was born and now he is almost 17 lbs. The baby changed so quickly and I’m really happy to be a part of his development. One day he discovered his tongue and he kept sticking it out of his mouth for the whole day. A few days later, he was done with this and moved on to other discoveries. It’s really amazing to see all the little things he is learning.

 

baby tongue 2I loved staying home with the little guy and I don’t have any problem with being a stay-at-home dad at all. Once our finances look a little better, I will probably pull the trigger and become a full time stay-at-home dad/blogger.

One last thing, it was quite difficult to work on the blog and take care of the little guy in the beginning. He napped for only 20-30 minutes at a time and he demanded constant attention. I got most of the work done at night when Mrs. RB40 was home. Now the little guy naps for an hour to two hours so it is much easier to work on the blog. I have no idea how moms with more than one kid do this? Mom bloggers, want to share your secrets?

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LifeAndMyFinances August 8, 2011 at 4:03 am

Sounds like you’re doing awesome RB40! I would love to hear that you retired in a few months! Oh, and I can’t wait to hear about the 4-plex. Sounds exciting!

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LLF August 8, 2011 at 5:32 am

Wow, it sounds like you are going to reach you goal of retiring by 40. That’s very awesome. Watching your baby grow is a definately wonderful. We tend to take the stuff we do every day for granted where as they are so new to everything, like sitting up for example. We don’t think twice about it. But when babies learn to do it the first time, there is so much joy and awe in seeing the world from a different perspective. I treasure those moments.

On a different note, do you plan to do maintenance for your rental properties yourself once you quit your FT job and the little guy goes to school?

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 9:38 am

He can’t sit up by himself yet. He just slumps over. Hopefully he’ll be able to sit up soon. :)
I’ll do maintenance for the rental home, but I’ll probably rely on the management company to deal with the 4 plex.

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Financial Success for Young Adults August 8, 2011 at 7:32 am

He is so cute! Congrats on the stats by the way. You will be ready to retire in no time. Let me know how the niche sites are coming too. I’ve been using Fiverr for one of mine and it’s working pretty well.

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 9:38 am

Thanks! I will have to look into Fiverr for some help.

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Jon -- Free Money Wisdom August 9, 2011 at 3:13 pm

He is a cutie! My girlfriend and I have talked about starting a family about 3-4 years after being married and Ihave a feeling we’ll be beginning earlier….I can’t wait! Good job with juggling being a stay-at-home dad and blogging! Looks like you kept up with your goals.

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retirebyforty August 9, 2011 at 10:19 pm

I think 3-4 years is about right. We waited over 10 years and that was a bit too long. Thanks!

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Justin @ MoneyIsTheRoot.com August 8, 2011 at 7:54 am

Very cute baby! Also, congrats on the progress and your achievements!

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krantcents August 8, 2011 at 9:43 am

Reflecting on your goals is an excellent activity! Taking the time to learn from the experience will help you in the future. Dealing with the trials of child rearing keeps you grounded and flexible. Congratulations on the 4plex.

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Freddie @ Invest With Passion August 8, 2011 at 9:57 am

The secret is Moms are freaking awesome!!! That is the secret.

Staying home is awesome and challenging. I am sure you really enjoyed your time with the little one. They are so special and grow up sooo fast it isn’t even funny!

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 1:36 pm

I think you’re right about that. :)

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Niki August 8, 2011 at 10:21 am

Ha ha! I had three kids under two years old, I don’t really remember how I did it. It helps to have a great husband/wife that knows you need a break.

I am so excited about RB40 the blog’s growth. It would be wonderful to be able to stay at home and do something you love.

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 1:36 pm

Wow, 3 kids. That’s nuts. I don’t know how my mom did it with 3 boys, hahaha. :D

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Brave New Life August 8, 2011 at 10:34 am

That sounds like a wonderful Spring. I had a similar Spring, when I took off 2 months while switching jobs. It wasn’t quite as productive as yours, but it wasn’t meant to be.

I’m also so glad to see you’re interested in being a stay at home dad while your wife works. It baffles me that the tradition of mom’s staying at home while dad’s work is still so predominant. My wife is a stay at home mom, but only because I made significantly more than her so it was a faster path to getting us both retired.

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 1:38 pm

It depends on the personality. I’m more patient with the kid than Mrs. RB40. We’ve been lucky so far and one of us had always taken up the slack when the other got impatient. I make more money than Mrs. RB40 currently, but I think she has a better future.

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SB @ One Cent At A Time August 8, 2011 at 10:47 am

Its nice to see a baby growing up! Is it only the time which is preventing you from working on niche sites?

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 1:39 pm

It’s mostly time and energy. If I have extra time on the weekend, it’s usually spent catching up on sleep. :)

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SB @ One Cent At A Time August 8, 2011 at 9:01 pm

poor guy, its called baby tax!

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Kellen August 8, 2011 at 10:56 am

Those are the cutest little tongue-sticking-out pictures.
Congrats on the blog income, that’s very inspirational :)

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 1:39 pm

Thanks! We think he is adorable too. :P

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Jeff @ Sustainable life blog August 8, 2011 at 12:37 pm

Sounds like you had a great trial retirement joe – Glad to hear that you enjoyed it so much. I’d love to hear more about the fourplex when its purchased. Have you considered taking 3 months off every year, or will leave not allow for that?

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 1:41 pm

It would be great if I can take 3 months off every year. The company won’t allow that though.

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Everyday Tips August 8, 2011 at 3:00 pm

I had 3 kids under the age of 4, and it is rough to find time. I worked part time from home during my 3rd child’s first year, and I had to work at night, I had no choice. If I had to work during the day, I did it while the baby napped, and the older two played really well together. Actually, I found 3 kids easier than 2 (it helps if they get along though). It can be hard with the first one because you are learning so much too, or at least I was.

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 11:02 pm

You must be so tired from taking care of the kids all day. I can’t imagine dealing with 3 kids and then working at night. I think we will stop with one kid. :) Thanks for sharing.

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Hunter @ Financially Consumed August 8, 2011 at 3:51 pm

Great article Joe. I’m also a stay-at-home blogger / Dad. We should start our own club, I don’t think there are many of us. It seems that you were very productive in these three months I know how difficult it is to do things on a schedule when you have a young baby that has its own pressing needs. Sometimes everything needs to be put on hold for the baby, and rightly so. I went back to school and earned a masters degree online. It gav me the perfect opportunity to do this. If I had stayed in the workforce It would have been much more difficult to do that.

I could write a book about all the experiences. Lots of great times, and several challenges.

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 11:04 pm

We should start our own stay-at-home dad club. :) I only know two, you and me. ha hahaha… Well, just you right now. Hopefully I can join you soon. Maybe you should write a book about your experience, it’ll be entertaining.

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Dining Out Challenge August 8, 2011 at 4:20 pm

There are no secrets, just lots of late nights working after the kids are in bed. Was it hard to put him in daycare after spending 3 months with him? He is just adorable!

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 11:05 pm

It was very difficult to put him in day care. He got sick after the first week and then spread the germs to both of us. He seems to be adjusting well socially though.

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Barb Friedberg August 8, 2011 at 7:56 pm

Wonderful!! You are doing great. Let me know if you want to commiserate as the short sale progresses. Ours finally went through after about 5 months. I’m told that it was better than most sales :)

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retirebyforty August 8, 2011 at 11:06 pm

Congratulation! Finally you’ll be able to leave the basement. :)

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Theresa Torres August 8, 2011 at 11:34 pm

Hi RB40,
A productive 3 months, wow, that’s awesome! How wonderful it would be to be able to retire by 40. I’d also love that and I still have 4 years to get ready.
It’s wonderful that you were able to spend time with your baby and had a great time. He is indeed cute.
Thanks for sharing your experience. Congrats on your progress and I wish you good luck on your goals.
Have a nice day!

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retirebyforty August 9, 2011 at 10:17 pm

Thank you for the complement! :)

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cashflowmantra August 9, 2011 at 6:54 am

It’s been great to read about your past 3 months and everything you have been accomplishing and learning. I wish you the best and will be looking forward to reading more about your accomplishments.

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Little House August 9, 2011 at 1:13 pm

What a great reflection. It sounds like you really enjoyed your time at home (love the tongue picts!) and ramped up your blog. Congrats on all the successes. Can’t wait to hear more!

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retirebyforty August 9, 2011 at 10:18 pm

I loved being a stay-at-home dad. It’s so much fun and exhausting at the same time. Thanks!

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MoneyCone August 9, 2011 at 2:47 pm

I like how you make detailed plans *and* stick to it! The pictures are absolutely adorable!

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retirebyforty August 9, 2011 at 10:19 pm

Thanks! It is a lot of fun taking his pictures.

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Jen @ Master the Art of Saving August 9, 2011 at 4:43 pm

It sounds like you have a great 3-month preview and were still able to get a lot done. I only have one kiddo (she’s 8 now) but always traded sleep to get things done. I never would have made it without caffeine. It does get easier over time and after getting into some kind of pattern. Glad you had fun. :-)

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retirebyforty August 9, 2011 at 10:20 pm

I think us parents have to trade sleep to get anything done. These days, I can’t wait for the weekend so I can take naps. Pretty sad. :D

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Denise @ The SIngle Saver August 9, 2011 at 7:29 pm

I just have to say that Little RB40 is a real cutie pie!

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Grady Pruitt August 10, 2011 at 12:17 am

Ever since my oldest was born nearly 9 years ago, we made the decision for one or the other of us to be here. For us, a part of the decision was that the cost of daycare essentially would wipe out any gain of even having the second income. While things have been tough, I wouldn’t trade any of that time I spent with the (now 2) kids for anything.

Parents who work all the time (whether it’s working two jobs or working really long hours at one) really do miss out on a lot of things that happen with their children. They miss most of the firsts of the child doing anything.

Having attempted to do certain things myself with a newborn around, I know just how hard it can be. Congrats on the adventure and good luck with your plan!

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retirebyforty August 10, 2011 at 3:24 pm

Daycare is very expensive. I’m trying to get my mom to move in with us for a while and that should really help out.
It’s a big change going from 2 incomes to 1. We’re trying to do it, but we’ll have to do it gradually. Hopefully one of us will be home with the kid in about a year or so. :)

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Jeremy Belmont August 10, 2011 at 2:07 am

Sounds like you have a great gig going. It is possible to make good money blogging, but the key is to gain the confidence of others who might employ your services. Making yourself visable online and making the effort to get to know decision makers really works! Even an amateur like me has been offered good money for someone to put their post on my blog! Putting making money aside, blogging is meaningful, and a great way for people with similar interests to come together.

Jeremy Belmont is the author for the 123notary BLOG at http://blog.123notary.com/

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Sandy - yesiamcheap August 11, 2011 at 8:49 am

I love these stories from your time home, and baby RB40 deserves the compliments of course. Cutie pie. I’m curious about how you felt as a SAHD. Did you feel your manhood slipping?

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retirebyforty August 11, 2011 at 3:34 pm

I am very comfortable as a SAHD. I’ve been working hard for 15 years and I’m entitled to a little time off. :)

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Squirrelers August 12, 2011 at 9:01 pm

I think I’d be very comfortable doing that too. Staying at home with child instead of working shouldn’t cause manhood to slip one iota. I don’t think this should even be a question in 2011.

Not that I actually have had the opportunity to stay home. Provided the money was there, I’d stay home. Alas, the money’s not there though….not even close:)

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Squirrelers August 11, 2011 at 2:26 pm

That’s great, RB40!

The best part – spending time with the little one. Watching kids grow is a treasure. As a Dad, I think it’s great to see a guy focus so much time and attention on a young child. I treasure all the time I can get playing with my kids and more importantly taking care of and raising them. Though I’m not a stay at home Dad, I totally get how it would be great. Nothing at all wrong with a Dad wanting to do that!

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retirebyforty August 11, 2011 at 3:35 pm

It’s great to see how fast he develops. He is starting to sit up better now and I never thought I would get exited by such things, but I am!

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Money Reasons August 11, 2011 at 7:50 pm

Sounded like a great time!

I think we would be more similar scenario to you and your wife, if my wife continued working after our baby was born.

I’m with you though, I love my kids and was amazed as they developed. Especially after they were 6 months old.

Thanks for sharing :)

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retirebyforty August 11, 2011 at 10:55 pm

I had a great time. 3 months flew by and going back to work was tough! I’m looking forward to his developments.

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youngandthrifty August 11, 2011 at 9:29 pm

Thanks for sharing your experience, RB40! Congratulations on all the blog and baby success! You guys are doing great and I love seeing pics of baby RB40. Are you going to give him some royalty income from your blog since he’s featured so much? ;)

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retirebyforty August 11, 2011 at 10:54 pm

Yeah, he’s the star of the show. I’ll deduct his daycare cost from his royalty. :)

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Ben August 12, 2011 at 7:39 pm

Hey retire by forty I found your blog after starting my own blog. Even though I am much younger than you are, I have similar aspirations of retiring by forty. I really hope you keep this blog up so that I can benchmark against your successes. I have a really small retirement account and after finishing my masters this year I will have about 40,000 in student loans so I have a long way to go.
In closing I would like to say that your blog has really caught the essence of the American .

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Buck Inspire August 14, 2011 at 9:15 am

Baby RB40 or is he now Infant RB40? I’m confused. Loved the tongue shot. Haha.

Way to stick to your plan. Looks like you will be Retiring by 40!

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work at home mom August 30, 2011 at 4:59 pm

Me and my husband started really young, we’re in our twenties and we’re both work at home parents. I have been voraciously reading your posts and I am very much relieved and enlightened as I want to achieve success and retire when I’m forty and my kids are all grown up!

Cheers

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retirebyforty August 30, 2011 at 10:54 pm

Thanks for following Retire By 40! We are almost 40 and just had a baby. Your kids are so lucky to have both parents work at home. ;)

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